Monday, May 19, 2014

Here's To Truly Growing Up

Celebrities today seem to think that in order to grow up, they need to go clubbing and do idiotic stuff, like twerking.

It seems to me that our society has a twisted take on "growing up"; for example, cussing (to start with), astoundingly dangerous feats (like drugs/alcohol/Justin Bieber drag racing), and inappropriateness (twerking).  Today, this post will be covering three points:
  • Why We Have This Mentality
  • Why We're Not Being "Mature"
  • What We Can Do To Stop This
Why We Have This Mentality

Why do we have this mentality?  What's wrong with us?  Here's how I see it:
  • We are innocent, carefree young children.  
  • We become slightly less innocent, carefree tweens.
  • As we are exposed to more and more, our innocence wears off and we start to want to "have fun" as we get into the teenage years.
  • After a couple years of Anchorman 2 and Miley Cyrus, we "figure out" that having fun means getting high and drunk.
  • We do dangerous, dumb things.
And the cycle continues.  How does it keep moving through the generations like this?  Well, it's human nature.  We're naturally faulted, so naturally we do dumb things, and those dumb things pay off into catastrophe, whether minor or major.

You might argue, "Well, Rcubed, if we're naturally faulted human beings, then maybe this is the way we should live."

It's not the way we should live because God told us so in the Bible.  He said to act in a Christ-like conduct and to take care of the bodies that He's given to us.  Granted, we'll trip and fall occasionally, but Christ will always pick us back up.  

Also, we shouldn't knowingly sin and think "Oh, Christ is going to save me from this," because a true Christian continually strives to become more like Christ.  God did not give us grace to take advantage of; He gave us grace because He knew that even when we tried our hardest, we still couldn't live a life worthy of Himself.

After all that's said and done, we have this "getting older means getting higher" mentality that can only come from fallen human reason.  And only Christ can rescue us.

Why We're Not Being "Mature"

Sometimes I see video game commercials on TV and they're marked "mature" because they have too much violence or whatever.  And I think, What does "mature" really mean?

There are several definitions of "mature" on Google; I picked out the one that I'm highlighting today: "having reached an advanced stage of mental or emotional development characteristic of an adult."  I think that, unless your family runs a blue cheese farm, this is the most common definition of mature that you find circulating teenage vocabulary.  

Teenage years are exciting.  We get to do more things and "grow up."  The problem is, there are certain connotations with being "mature" that weigh too heavily in the teenage mind.  Dating.  Watching R-rated movies.  Going to 7-Eleven to get cigarettes when you're eighteen.  Listening to explicit music.

Is that really being mature?  Have you reached your "advanced stage of mental or emotional development" and consequently, as part of your "maturity," have chosen to start smoking even though you know that it causes emphysema and lung cancer?  Or is it simply just taking advantage of your age?  

Because just because you're sixteen doesn't mean you're responsible enough to have your driver's license.  Just because you're eighteen doesn't mean you should smoke.  Just because you're twenty-one doesn't mean you can drink alcohol with wisdom.  You just can, because you're old.  And "mature."  There's less in an age than you think.

Are you mature enough to choose not to do the stuff that you know will negatively influence your life?

What We Can Do To Stop This

This is a mentality that is ravaging our society today.  Kids everywhere are doing dumb stuff just because they're old and "grown up."  They listen to Jay-Z and go crazy; twerk and smirk; get drunk and go punk.  

What can we do?

For starters, let's start with ourselves.  We can choose not to participate in ritualistic "growing up" activities.  We can maintain healthy relationships with God, family, and friends.  We can pursue our dreams in a way that will impact the world positively.

We can truly grow up and make the decisions of one who is responsible.

And I'm not done growing up yet.  I'm still in the process of learning, and I probably will be for the rest of my life.  However, there will be a point in my life where I will be deemed "grown up," and I will be able to do all of the things that people are abusing today.

But the point of growing up is discerning what is grown up and what is not.

So let's raise our glasses (of Kirkland Signature fat-free milk) and toast:

"Here's to truly growing up!"


P.S.  Any thoughts, ideas, suggestions?  Feel free to comment below, but please make sure to keep everything edifying to those around you :-)


  1. Here, here, Rcubed! Great post. I will join you in a toast (however, I am not drinking Kirkland Signature Fat-free milk). And with that I raise my mug of tea to truly growing up. A hardy three cheers!


  2. Good thoughts, Rcubed! I agree that we have a warped definition of growing up in our culture, but, honestly, it's more a warped definition of teenagers than of anything else. Most adults don't think teenagers are mature as they begin to do the things you talked about; they still consider them immature. But you're right: we don't value true maturity in our culture.

    One note: you mentioned voting at twenty-one after getting cigarettes at eighteen. I'm not sure on the age limit for smoking, but you can vote at eighteen. Just thought I'd throw that out there. :)

    1. Woops, I get so confused with the whole age thing :-) I'll be sure to fix that :-) Thanks!