Tuesday, December 23, 2014

HOW TO BE SOCIAL || MUSINGS FROM AN INTROVERT

There are some people who run on other people's energy.

You know who that person is. Maybe they're the bright and cheerful neighbor who's always walking over to say hello. Or maybe she's the popular girl at school, the one everyone loves to be around. (And, let's face it, you do too. When you actually feel like being around people.) Or maybe it's your mom. Or Dad. Or brother. Or sister. Or grandma. Or half-cousin-twice-removed (I don't know).


The point is, there's always someone in your life who's the bubbly extrovert, the one who loves people. 


And then there are people like you and me. The people who, two hours into the party, suddenly feel like they want to go home and watch Disney Channel and eat popcorn by themselves. (Speaking of which, I haven't watched Disney Channel in a long time. Hmmm.) 


And that in itself is fine. Watching Disney Channel? Applause. Eating popcorn? Yay!


But there are certain points in our lives when we have to face the music. Not everything is going to go our way. We can't be antisocial all the time. So whether you're stuck at a party for five hours, or at a sleepover with friends, you can use these tips! (Because heaven knows we all need that.)





  • Remind yourself that being social isn't for you, it's for them. Many times, don't want to talk to people. But you know what? I can't just think about what I want to do all the time. I have to think about the other person. Maybe they're sitting in a corner, looking left out of all of the Christmas festivities. And yes, I've resisted my conscience many, many times and haven't gone over to talk to that person--but the point is, I should. I'm not going to talk to them for my sake. I'm talking to them for their sake, because I care about them and want them to have a good time. 


What if they're an introvert? you say. What if they actually want to be left alone? Chances are, they'll appreciate you coming over and taking the time to talk to them. And it might even be good for them, too. (See? It's a win-win situation! You both learn how to be social! Yay!)

  • You don't even have to talk. You can just listen. Once you get a conversation started, they may just want to talk, talk, talk, talk. You only have to listen and prod them into talking some more! Yay! They'll be happy and pleased that someone is coming over to listen to them yak all day long. And you'll be pleased that, except for the occasional "mmhmm" and "yeah," you don't have to actively participate.
  • If you want to talk, talk about something that's interesting for both you and the other person. Find a common bond. For example, say both of you like the Hunger Games. Go over and fangirl your heart out! Analyze the implications of Mockingjay: Part One! Make up ship names! I'm told that fangirls do that already online; now just make the transfer and use your vocal cords to fangirl. It's as simple as that.
Except it's never really that simple. Trust me, I know. I've had long battles of should-I-no-I-won't-yes-I-should-though. 

And really, this advice is all very good, but it's only your action that's going to make you more social. Ask God to help you be social, because withdrawing from the crowd, many times, can be a form of pride and lack of love. (Everyone needs to rest, but you should only rest so much!)

And yes, I'm guilty. So many times I haven't followed this advice. So really, this post is less for you and more for me. It's a reminder that if Jesus died on the cross for my sins, I can walk over and talk to that person who's sucking on a lollipop. (I've got no idea where I got that lollipop part; it just came to me. Maybe I should go get a lollipop right now...)

GO! I BID THEE! BE SOCIAL!








8 comments:

  1. This is totally me!I could totally relate to this. Love this post. :)

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    1. Auww thanks! So glad it touched you!

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  2. Yay :-)
    Actually the thing I need is a sweet reminder, that my mom would be much happier, if I was more polite... not that I'm not social. I think I'm that kind of girl, that can chatter and chatter for hours with people she likes and suddenly shuts up, when someone she doesn't like joins the conversation.

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    1. Yeah, we all get those feelings! Thanks for commenting :-)

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  3. you should do this ~ it sounds fun! :-) you were tagged, fyi. {just in case you didn't read the post} http://lifeasyounglady.blogspot.com/2014/12/bryleigh-and-os-lyric-medley-tag.html

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    1. Yeah, I read it! It sounds like so much fun!

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  4. I sometimes start (or join) conversations to avoid being thought of as "rude"... It happens a lot. People think I'm a "snob" but in reality I just don't have anything to say!

    Oh and I have always hated crowds.

    Anyway, great post!

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    1. Thanks! I don't like crowds either. They're too noisy and I'm too claustrophobey to like them. Thanks for commenting!

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